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I’m Triggered Again – and I’m Tired of It
Being triggered again doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means your nervous system is revealing something it learned long before you had language for it. Healing isn’t about erasing triggers – it’s about changing how you meet yourself inside them.
The Subtle Power of “My”
Every time you use words like my, mine, or me, you’re entering an energetic contract with whatever you’re naming – people, ideas, wounds, patterns, or roles. Language becomes identity. Identity becomes reality. When you shift how you take ownership, you shift how you experience your life
When Your Brother Was the Enforcement
When your brother became Enforcement, your body learned one thing: “My safety doesn’t matter.”
And when safety disappears, the self disappears.
Your reactions now aren’t weakness – they’re memory. Naming this truth is the first step back to yourself.
Victim Consciousness
Victim consciousness isn’t a flaw – it’s a signal.
It rises when a part of us feels unseen, unsupported, or overwhelmed.
When we treat it as information rather than identity, it becomes a doorway back to truth, boundaries, and self-support.
Your “victim” is not weak; it’s the part of you asking to be witnessed so your power can return.
Critical to Curious — The Shift That Changes Everything
“Curiosity doesn’t erase boundaries – it removes the wall that keeps awareness from growing.”
When Awareness Meets Allowance
Flow isn’t about control – it’s about communion. It’s the quiet, sacred conversation between awareness and allowance, where presence meets trust and effort gives way to ease.
Say It Like You Mean It
Words are frequencies – living currents that shape reality. When spoken with presence, they stop being noise and become power.
The Paradox of Preparation
Over-preparation can trap you in a cycle of “not yet,” keeping possibility at bay – discover how leaning into small acts of spontaneity can reignite your drive even as you plan.
The Courage to Align
True peace isn’t found in avoiding conflict but in expressing alignment. When we speak from coherence rather than compliance, communication becomes a bridge – transforming tension into truth and difference into depth.
Depression as the Echo, Not the Enemy
“I wasn’t struggling with depression – I was struggling with life. Depression was the effect, not the cause.”
In this reflection, Lya invites us to see depression not as the enemy but as the body and soul’s cry for alignment – a message to slow down, listen, and release what’s too heavy to carry.
Lose or Gain
“Don’t think about what you might lose.
Think about what you will gain.
Let your choices be guided not by fear, but by what’s waiting to be claimed.”
Confidence as Self-Trust
Confidence is not about being certain – it’s about trusting yourself to stay true.
The Tug-of-War We Don’t See
Life often feels like a tug-of-war between those who demand and those who give in. But both postures come from fear. The shift happens when you step out of the tug-of-war and into self-awareness — no pushing, no collapsing, just standing in your own truth.
Perfect in Each Moment
Perfection isn’t a flawless future—it’s the wholeness of each moment, just as it is. When we shift perspective, presence becomes the perfection we’ve been seeking all along.
The Mirage of Perfect
Perfection is a mirage – always shifting, never fixed. What feels “perfect” to one person, culture, or season of life may be irrelevant to another. Maybe perfection isn’t the goal at all – maybe presence is.
The Issues Are in the Tissues
Trauma doesn’t only live in the mind—it takes root in the body. “The issues are in the tissues” reminds us that true healing requires not just thinking differently, but helping the body feel safe enough to let go.
The Overflow of Unfelt Feelings
We can’t hold another’s emotions until we’ve held our own. What we avoid in ourselves will always feel overwhelming in others.
When Balance Breaks Again
Balance isn’t a destination we “arrive at” and hold forever. It’s a living rhythm – one of swaying, falling, and returning. The swing out of balance isn’t failure; it’s part of the dance.
The Paradox of Protection
Protection is meant to safeguard—but when care crosses into control, the protector becomes the bully. Awareness allows us to shift from fear-driven domination to trust-filled connection.
Stand Firm, Bend Wisely: Negotiables vs. Non-Negotiables
Knowing the difference between what’s negotiable and what’s non-negotiable in a relationship can be the difference between growth and collapse. Your negotiables keep things flexible; your non-negotiables keep things authentic.
Meltdown as Medicine
Sometimes a meltdown isn’t weakness – it’s medicine. The body’s way of saying “enough,” stripping us back to truth and giving us space to heal.
The World and My World
“There is the world – loud and demanding – and then there is my world – quiet and sovereign. The more I tend to my world, the more I transform the way I experience the world.”
Positivity or Pretend?
Sometimes positivity isn’t strength – it’s doubt disguised as a smile. True positivity doesn’t deny the darkness; it trusts that light will find its way through.
The Protection Pause
The Protection Pause is the sacred space you create between stimulus and response. It’s not hesitation, but sovereignty in motion—a moment to protect your body, mind, and spirit before choosing your next step.
Aligning Action with Authentic Desire
By reframing our internal “gottas” into conscious “I choose” statements, we reclaim our agency, infuse everyday tasks with purpose, and transform obligation into authentic desire.
The Someday Syndrome
Caught in the cycle of “someday”? This reflective piece explores how waiting for the perfect moment quietly steals your power—and how to reclaim it, today.
The Necessity of Nothing
Nothingness isn’t emptiness—it’s the fertile pause where clarity, healing, and fresh inspiration take root. Step into the quiet and discover how doing “nothing” can reset your nervous system and renew your creative spark.
Thresholds of Freedom
Every moment holds a threshold between what confines us and the choices that set us free; by naming our hidden constraints and taking small, intentional steps, we cross into a life aligned with our deepest longing for freedom.
The Waiting Paradox
True power lies not in ceaseless motion but in the intentional pause that sharpens our aim. By waiting with purpose, we break free from passive drift and align our next steps with deeper clarity and resilience.
Means Goals vs. End Goals
We’ve been taught to chase goals that look good on paper—but what if they’re not leading us where we truly want to go? This reflection explores the difference between means goals and end goals—and why knowing the difference changes everything.
From Poor You to Power in You
We don’t need to pity those who’ve endured trauma—we need to witness them with reverence. There is nothing “poor” about someone who survived; there is power in them that deserves to be seen.
Nothing to Fix, Everything to Find
You are not broken—you are buried beneath layers of conditioning. This isn’t a fixing journey; it’s a remembering.
A Single Edge: Finding Depth Through Simplicity
In a world chasing more—more tasks, more connections, more noise—the true edge lies in doing less, but doing it with full presence and purpose. When we wield the Sword of Simplicity, we carve out space for depth, creativity, and the quiet power of a single, well-chosen focus.
The Need to Move to Prove
“Stillness is not weakness. You don’t need to bleed effort to earn your place in this world.”
To Feel the Real is to Find the Self
To come home to ourselves, we must first get real—with our truth, our tenderness, and our tangled emotions. Getting real makes space for feeling, and feeling reconnects us to the Self that’s been waiting beneath the surface.
Voice. Vitality. Vision.
When we reclaim our voice, we revive our vitality and remember our vision. This is the return to your unfiltered self—honest, alive, and aligned.
Find the Divine in Daily Rituals: Sacred Mundanity
In the gentle rhythm of brewing morning coffee or the simple act of washing dishes, we discover that the sacred isn’t distant—it’s woven into the very fabric of our everyday moments.
Let Me Be
Sometimes the most courageous healing isn’t in changing—it’s in allowing. “Let me be” is a sacred pause, a return to self.
From Fixing Yourself to Sitting With Yourself
We spend so much time trying to fix what hurts that we forget the healing often begins when we simply sit with it. You are not a problem to solve—you are a person to meet, hold, and love.
Coping to Creating
The shift from coping to creating is the quiet triumph of turning survival into self-expression. It’s not just healing—it’s alchemy.
To Bee or Not to Be
What if the question isn’t “to be or not to be,” but to bee or not to be—to exist with presence, purpose, and quiet contribution like the honeybee, without needing proof of worth? Maybe the answer lies not in thinking more, but in being more—simply, and fully.
Distraction …traction …..action
Distraction isn’t failure—it’s feedback. Beneath the drift lies motion, meaning, and the power to realign that restless energy into purposeful action.
Comfort or Clarity?
We often believe we’re seeking clarity, when in truth, we’re reaching for the comfort of what’s familiar. But sometimes, the truth and the ease we crave can’t live in the same room.
What If Your Pain Isn’t Physical?
“Sometimes the aches we feel aren’t in our muscles or joints but in our heart and subtle energy field. Learn how non-physical pain can manifest as chronic tension, fatigue, or persistent symptoms—and why addressing its emotional and energetic roots is the key to true healing.”
Animal Emotion Code®
Discover how Pet Emotion Code work via distant online sessions can identify and release your companion’s trapped emotions—reducing stress-driven behaviors like anxiety, aggression, and destructive chewing—and help them feel calmer, happier, and more balanced from the comfort of home.
From Holy Shit to Holy Shift
“That jaw-dropping ‘holy shit’ moment isn’t just a crisis—it’s your soul’s invitation to shift. Step into your ‘holy shift’ and transform shock into your next breakthrough.”
Beyond the Busy Badge: Reclaiming Your Worth in Stillness
We’ve all been there—racing from one thing to the next, wearing our jam-packed calendars like status symbols. But the truth is, worth isn’t measured by the number of tasks you complete—it’s discovered in the quiet spaces between them.
The Turning Point of Change: Pain Pushes, Vision Pulls
There’s a moment when pain stops being the driver, and vision begins to lead. This turning point marks the shift from survival to self-direction, from escaping to becoming.
The Progress Imperative
“In the race to perfection, we often stumble at the starting line—waiting for the perfect plan, perfect timing, perfect conditions. But every imperfect step forward brings us closer to growth, insight, and the confidence to keep going.”
The Illusion of Enoughness Through Others
We wait for their words to declare us worthy—“You’re enough”—but their actions whisper otherwise. True enoughness begins the moment we stop seeking permission to believe it.
The Skill of Quitting
Quitting isn’t failure—it’s a skill. When you know your why, you gain the wisdom to walk away from what no longer aligns and make choices that bring you back to your truth.
Attention is Creation: The Invisible Architect of Your Reality
Attention isn’t passive—it’s profoundly creative. What you focus on, you build into your reality, whether consciously or not.
Burning Bridges or Building Roots?
Not every act of rebellion is destruction. Not every return is real. The deeper work is asking: Am I running, or am I rooting?
Naked Truth: The Art of Being Real
The real you is not too much—just deeply uncovered. Vulnerability, when rooted in truth, is not exposure, but sacred return.
Gratitude: The Quiet Force That Shifts Everything
Gratitude isn’t about pretending life is perfect—it’s about seeing what’s still beautiful, still true, even in the midst of pain. This quiet, steady presence can shift your entire experience from the inside out.
Beyond the Fight: The Quiet Power of Realignment
Some battles are necessary. But real power lies in the choice to stop fighting and start embodying. Realignment isn’t weakness—it’s sovereign strength born in stillness.
Distant Healing: How I Send Energy Across Space and Time
“Whether we’re a room apart or a continent away, our hearts still know how to meet.”
Life in Layers
We do ourselves a disservice when we only tell half the story. The fullness of life is in the contrast—and the courage it takes to write it all down.
The Grace of Need
Needing doesn’t make you weak. It makes you real. To need with grace is not to collapse, but to open.
Time and Attention Is Your Life
You are made of what you give your time and attention to. These are not just resources—they are the very fabric of your life.
Passion is Your Purpose
What lights you up is not a distraction from your purpose—it is your purpose. This article explores how passion guides us to what truly matters.
Fire & Flow
There are moments in life when we must burn, and others when we must breathe. Rebellion breaks what no longer fits; realignment rebuilds what deeply belongs.
Empowerment: The Quiet Rise of Your Own Voice
Empowerment isn’t about force—it’s about remembering your voice, your choices, and your right to live in alignment with your truth. It begins when you stop asking for permission to be who you already are.
The Quiet Power of Contentment
Contentment isn’t the end of desire—it’s the release of urgency. This quiet, grounded state reminds us that presence, not perfection, is where true peace begins.
Choice Point: Feeling First, Then Choosing
The Choice Point is the powerful pause between emotion and action. It’s where feeling is honored, presence is reclaimed, and you get to choose your next step—on purpose.
Peace Over Pretending
Pretending may protect us momentarily, but it slowly erodes our inner peace. This article invites you to trade performance for presence and reclaim the power of showing up as your real self.
Conscious or Control: Awareness in the Living of Your Life
Are you living by conscious choice—or by invisible control? Explore how awareness can become your bridge back to yourself, and reclaim your life one choice at a time.
When the Body Speaks: Learning to Listen
The body speaks in sensations long before it shouts in symptoms. Learning to listen to its unique language — your own energy signature — is an act of profound self-respect and a powerful step toward healing.
Signal to Self
What you do frequently becomes your frequency. Your patterns, your rituals, and your micro-choices shape the energy you live in—and the energy you emit. Real change begins in what you repeat.
Anger Alchemy
Anger isn’t just heat and flames; it’s raw energy awaiting transformation. Discover the art of Anger Alchemy, where your rage becomes wisdom, strength, and clarity.
The Rage Cage
Anger isn’t the enemy—it’s the evidence you care. The Rage Cage explores how we’ve been conditioned to fear our fire and why unlocking our anger might just be the key to reclaiming truth, boundaries, and self-respect.
Perfect Within the Present
We’ve been taught to chase perfection, but what if true wholeness lives in presence? This article explores how reclaiming “perfect” as wholeness—not flawlessness—can return us to our breath, our body, and the truth of the moment.
The Do or Die Line
There comes a moment when you either do what your soul is asking, or something inside you begins to die. This article explores the raw choice at the edge of transformation — and what happens when you finally choose yourself.
The Hurt We Hate
We didn’t break — we adapted.
But now it’s time to unlearn the silence, release the weight, and return to the self who never stopped waiting.
This is the hurt we hate — and the healing we choose.
Phoenix Rising
The phoenix doesn’t rise because it wants to—it rises because it must. This article explores the symbolic journey of burning, grieving, glowing, and becoming, reminding you that transformation often begins in the ashes.
Reiki
Reiki is a gentle, hands-on or distance energy healing practice that channels universal life force energy to restore balance, peace, and vitality. Learn how this intuitive practice helps release stuck energy, reduce stress, and reconnect you with your natural state of wholeness.
A Heart-Wall®
The Heart-Wall is an energetic shield built from trapped emotions that protects us during emotional pain—but it can also block love, joy, and connection. Learn how this invisible wall is formed, why it matters, and how to gently release it to reconnect with your truest self.
Belief Code®
The Belief Code® helps you identify and release the subconscious programs that shape your life—from limiting beliefs to inherited trauma structures. Learn how this powerful energy healing tool can help you reclaim your truth and rewrite the internal scripts that no longer serve you.
Body Code™
The Body Code® is a powerful energy healing system that goes beyond emotion, helping uncover and release imbalances in the body’s systems, energy circuits, and deeper subconscious blocks. Learn how this intuitive modality helps restore the body’s natural balance—one layer at a time.
Emotion Code®
The Emotion Code® is a healing technique that helps release trapped emotional energies stored in the body. Discover how this gentle method can restore emotional freedom, relieve physical tension, and reconnect you with your authentic self.
Bitch & Switch
We all slip into Bitch Mode sometimes – what matters is how quickly we catch it and Switch. This article shows you how to shift your state from reactive to empowered in just a moment.
Courage
Courage is not about being fearless – it’s about choosing to move forward with your heart, even when fear is present. This article explores how to embody quiet bravery, trust your truth, and live from the inside out.
Anger
Anger is not a flaw – it’s a powerful messenger asking to be felt, heard, and honored. This article explores how to safely process anger and transform it into strength, boundaries, and embodied truth.
Grief
Grief is not something we get over – it’s something we learn to carry with tenderness and reverence. This article explores how grief invites presence, reflection, and the honoring of what has shaped us.
Fear
Fear isn’t something to conquer – it’s something to understand. This article explores how fear can serve as both protector and guide, and how we can learn to walk forward with courage beside it.
Guilt
Guilt can be a quiet teacher or a heavy burden. This article invites you to explore the wisdom within guilt, how to meet it with compassion, and how to turn it into a path of healing and alignment.
Shame
Shame is not who you are – it’s where healing is still calling. This article explores how to meet shame with compassion, and how to transform it into a path of self-connection and wholeness.
DESIRE
“If a desire exists in you, it is your path.” What if desire isn’t something to fear or fix – but something to follow? In this article, we explore the soul’s language of longing, how to distinguish true desire from false cravings, and how to reclaim desire as sacred direction.
CHANGE: The Sacred Disruption
Change isn’t just something to survive- it’s a sacred invitation to return to your truth. In this article, explore the spiral path of becoming, the wisdom in the unraveling, and the quiet power of choosing to evolve.
Switch the Bitch
We’ve been taught to silence the strong voice inside – the one that sets boundaries, calls out truth, and burns with clarity. But what if “the bitch” isn’t a problem to fix, but a power to reclaim?
Precious Pointlessness
In a world constantly driven by achievement and productivity, embracing moments of precious pointlessness offers a profound opportunity for personal growth, creativity, and emotional balance. This practice invites you to reconnect with the simple beauty of being, without the pressure to do or prove anything.
Progress, Not Perfection
Embracing the mindset of ‘Progress, Not Perfection’ allows us to shift from the unattainable goal of perfection to appreciating the growth and learning that happens with every step. It encourages us to honor the journey and celebrate the small wins along the way.
Bring Your Life Into FOCUS
FOCUS is a powerful framework for living a purposeful life, encompassing Flow, Ownership, Conscious Choices, Understanding, and embracing your true Self. By aligning with these five principles, you can navigate life with clarity, intention, and fulfillment.
Play Your Music
“Your true song has been playing within you from the moment you were born, but over time, it may become buried beneath expectations and external influences. By shedding the layers of others’ narratives and tuning into your own essence, you can rediscover and play your authentic melody, inspiring not only yourself but the world around you.”
OWN Yourself
OWN Yourself is a powerful journey of self-empowerment, guiding you to live authentically, recognize your worth, and make conscious, intentional choices. Embrace open-heartedness, warmth, and nourishing self-care as you reclaim your personal power and align with your true self.
Silent To Listen
What if silence isn’t the absence of sound, but the beginning of true listening? In a world that moves fast and talks loud, the quiet art of presence may be the most powerful form of connection we have.
WANTING…
What if the thing you’re chasing isn’t truly yours? This article explores the subtle tension of wanting to want something – and how to let go of false desires with clarity and compassion.
The Power of Pause
In a world obsessed with speed and productivity, this reflection invites you to rediscover the sacred power of the pause – a place where clarity, awareness, and presence quietly dwell.
Discovering Your ROOTS
In a world that often prioritizes external success over inner well-being, discovering your ROOTS is a journey of self-exploration, healing, and empowerment. This post explores how to reconnect with your authenticity, heal past wounds, and cultivate a deeply rooted, intentional life.
Dandelions
More than just a weed, the dandelion is a symbol of resilience and healing. Rich in nutrients and essential to the ecosystem, it thrives despite adversity. What if we embraced its wisdom instead of eradicating it?