Author: LYA

Boundary: a line that marks the limits of an area; a dividing line.

I have, as many people do, struggled with what it means to have boundaries.  What is a boundary?  How do I create, establish, enforce boundaries?

What have I learned over the years about boundaries?

I was listening to a podcast about boundaries, because I so desperately wanted to know how to build healthy boundaries in my life, seeking solutions to why others were not respecting my boundaries.  Boundaries is just one of the several themes I have been confused about in my life, and I was going to find the answers I needed.  Move forward several years, I now find the answer I was seeking was always there.

What is this answer that I received, you might ask?

I now laugh at how truly simple the answer is…it was me all along.

Wait, what?…

The one thing this boundary expert stated was very simple, confusing at the time, yet just what I needed to hear.  And I let it percolate within my being until it came forward with the clarity I required, felt was what I truly needed to feel safe with and within myself.

‘Your boundaries start and stop with you’.

Now, at first, I was frustrated by this simple statement, yet I allowed it to percolate until I was ready to truly understand what that meant, not by someone else’s definition, opinion, but what it meant to me, for me.

Since we are energy beings, and since everyone and everything is in a relationship, energy relating to other energies, and now that we know that whatever your energy state of being is, at any given moment, will be attracting into or repelling away, any/all experiences in your life we have more insight into what boundaries really are.

Example: If you are confused about what is acceptable or not to you, you will experience confusing relationships…which will show up as confusing boundaries.  Therefore you are unable to communicate and act from a position of clarity.

When we become clear about how we will show up energetically in any/all relationships  that is what our boundaries will be.

Simple.  ‘Be’ in and of the energies that you desire for yourself and your life, and it will be that.

Complex, because there are so many layers within ourselves that we do not know about therefore we are operating in unintentional and unknowing ways energetically.

Know Thy’Self’…know all aspects of your being-ness, the energy state that you are in, emitting, and see how effortlessly your boundaries are automatically built.

‘Be the change you want to see in the world’

Be in the energetic state you want to experience within yourself and in your world.

Just ‘Be’…

The End (link to ‘Be’-ing article)

My: belonging to or associated with the speaker.

Code: program instructions.

Although we may all each have portions of our code that are the same, at the end of our codes, when we see it all put together we will see that no two codes are the same.

Like computers can have all the same base operating system, hard drive, etc., yet there are no two computers that are 100% the same.  It is how each individual utilizes their computer that gives it the individual, unique qualities that differentiate them from the others.

The computer analogy can also be likened to our finger prints.  Although there are many similarities shared, there are distinctive differences, therefore there are no two fingerprints that are the exact same.

We can go further and look at nature and see allot of similarities yet there are never going to be any two exactly the same of anything.

And since we are nature emitting our own unique electromagnetic signatures, we have our own personal operating manuals with all the coding we require to live our lives authentically.  Just as a computer can be corrupted, interfering with it’s original encoding, we can understand that many, if not all of us, find ourselves not able to fully operate from our original unique individuated blueprint that we hold deep within us.  We just need to uncover it, to know it.

So what is your My CODE?

It is somewhat like a vision & mission statement that a business uses to succeed.  It is the codes of conduct that informs how the business will operate by acting from these defined values and goals.  It is like a road map if you will.

It is important to add at this point the understanding that any time you utilize the ‘spell’ing power of words such as ‘My’, ‘Mine’, ‘Me’, you are taking possession of that relationship, no matter what that relationship may be.  A person, a place, an object, an animal, a project, an idea, a belief, a thought, an emotion, etc.

Here are a few examples of this.  ‘My home’, ‘My mother…’, ‘That is mine’, ‘That is just me’…and it goes on and on.  You get the point.  Now ask yourself if you want or are willing to take ownership of that thing, person, place, etc.

To understand this will help you recover your individuated, unique blueprint (life map) to follow.

The more detailed the map, the more clarity you have to what direction is best for you to move towards.  Yet most of us have an unclear map guiding us.  Ask if your map has had some of it erased, rewritten, smudged, smeared or changed in any way from it’s original design.  If we are unable to operate from the original blueprint we find that we are lost in the great big back country, called life, not having any true idea of which way to go.  We are not really able to trust the map and it’s a guessing game of ‘this way or that way’ more often than not.

Do you know that you decided what your original blueprint, your life map, was going to be?

What if you can find your original blueprint, your map?

How?

By diving into a discovery relationship with your ’Self’, your inner world.  Your original map is held deep within your energy system, your inner self, your soul.  The wisdom of the ‘Know Thyself’ statement is mostly untapped, unexplored, unchallenged, untraveled, which keeps us operating from a distorted, corrupted and unreliable map.

Ask yourself if you want to uncover/reveal your true blueprint, your map, to guide you through this life that you are in.

How do you do that?

With ‘Seek & Sit’ (link to article here) as well as ‘Sit & Seek’ (link to article here)

Have an exciting, adventurous journey fellow traveller.

Do words have the ability to balance you or throw you out of balance?

To answer that question let’s dive into what we know about the affects of words.  Science has now discovered how words affect water.

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Dr. Masaru Emoto’s water crystal experiments claimed that words and emotions can change the molecular structure of water, which in turn affects our reality. Emoto’s experiments involved exposing water to words, pictures, or music, then freezing it and examining the ice crystals under a microscope. 

In his studies, Emoto found that water exposed to positive words and intentions formed beautiful, symmetrical crystalline structures when the water was frozen, while water exposed to negative words and intentions formed disorganized, asymmetrical structures.  (Source: internet)

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Since we are mostly made up of water, doesn’t it just make sense that language, whether it is self-talk, spoken out loud or written, will inform your life and how you move through it?

Whatever frequency you are vibrating at is creating the state of being that you are in, affecting your life from within and outside of yourself.  That is very powerful to know and understand.  Ask yourself what do you want to create in your life?

And doesn’t it then make sense, that whenever you speak of anything, anyone, or yourself in negative lower frequency language, it will affect your body as it reverberates within you and out from you into the world?

Now I ask myself why would we do that to ourselves…why?

We have 100% control, accountability and responsibility to our beliefs, thoughts, words, emotions, actions and behaviours…which has created and is creating, unknowingly, knowingly, intentionally, unintentionally, our state of being, our state of health and wellbeing that we are experiencing.  Isn’t that empowering to know?!!

I know, I know,…’but they made me mad’, ‘they abused and hurt me’…they, they, they,…I had, in the past, believed this as well.  I had a very deep belief that it was my abusers responsibility to fix what they broke in me, because they were the ones who broke me.  But there is no self-empowerment in this way of believing and thinking.  It is just giving them access to your energy system, which is 100% yours.  I’ll say that again…It’s 100% YOURS.

I also came to the realization that I didn’t want those who abused me to have access to me and my life, my energy system…that is when I found myself in a conundrum.

Conundrum: a confusing and difficult problem or question.

Well…who’s going to fix me then?

What now?

I’ll tell you how I answered that question for myself, from my perspective.  You decide if it’ll help you find your answer or not.

Once you understand and know that you are 100% in control of your energy system, you become unstoppable in how you direct your attention (energy) to the life ‘you’ desire to live.  And to have a full understanding that everyone around you has the same right to their own energy system.

Do NOT take any accountability or responsibility for another’s energy system.  Ever!

Do NOT give anyone access to your energy system.  Ever!

Let the Jones’s run their energy system any way they choose.

Let the neighbours decide what they are going to belief, think, say or do.

Let your family, friends, co-workers, community, believe whatever they choose to believe.

Let that person be angry.

Let those people feel sadness if they choose to.

Let it all be what it is.

Let you ‘be’ in the state (energy) that you desire. 

You can’t be angry enough to help the angry people.

You can’t be poor enough to help the poor.

You can’t be sick enough to help the sick.

You can’t fight enough to stop fighting.

You can’t expect from others what you are not willing to do and be for yourself.

This last statement deserves some attention…if you do not ‘Spell’ yourself within your beliefs, thoughts, words and emotions, with kindness, love, support, compassion, etc., then your expectations that others do it for you just isn’t going to happen…it literally can not happen!!  We are nature, we are physics, and we are subject to the Laws of the Universe.

Like attracts like: This law suggests that similar things are attracted to one another. It means that people tend to attract people who are similar to them—but it also suggests that people’s thoughts tend to attract similar results.

So if you think your self-abusive beliefs, thoughts, emotions and words you have about yourself will bring about love, compassion, supportive behaviour with others you are and will be wrong.

If you are judgemental with yourself, you will be judgemental with others.  And you will attract other judgemental individuals into your life…this will happen naturally!  Remember we are nature and we are subject to the laws of nature/universe.

Let’s empower ourselves with the knowledge and understanding that is required to put into action the experiences we truly desire and deserve.  I say deserve because if you can imagine it, it is yours, only by your allowance of it, as you align vibrationally to it.

Ask yourself if your beliefs, known, unknown, support the life you can imagine?  To give life to what you imagine requires your focused ‘intended’ ‘attention’…you focusing your energy system on, into that imagined life by believing it.

If not, you have the power to change them, replace them, by your directed attention.

‘Be the change you want to see in the world’…this is a literal instruction.

If you want to see happiness in the world…’Be Happy’.  That’s it, that’s all…Period.

Everything you have ever wanted was always within you and you didn’t know this.  You cannot keep operating the way you have expecting a different outcome.  So let’s gain the knowledge and understanding that will support a new way of ‘being’ in your life.

So what deeply held beliefs do you have that are vibrating in the lower frequencies?

By replacing them with beliefs that are vibrating in the higher frequencies is self-care.

DO IT!!

Choose your words carefully…very carefully…you are ‘literally’ ‘Spell’ing yourself and the way you experience life.

Write the CODE you want to operate your life from.

This is the time to get really honest with yourself and no longer buy into the Bullshit that has been feed to us about how we are supposed to live.

If it worked we would be living in the healthiest, wealthiest communities that have no abuse, no hunger, no homelessness, no addiction, no mistreatment of self and others.  Until our lives reflect total well-being at all levels, I personally, will continue to search out the unknown ways to manifest it within my life and share it with all who want to live the fulfilled life they are imagining.  Keep imagining, and settle for nothing less than the life you deserve.

What do you believe you deserve?

Do these beliefs feel good to you?

Write your CODE!

CODE article…(Link here)

What is abuse?

Abuse: use (something) to bad effect or for a bad purpose; misuse.

If we break down this definition a little further, we find insight into the subtle ways we are abusive, allow ourselves to be abused or accept abuse, with our participation in some way or other, even if it is just by giving witness to it, no matter the form it takes.

Let me explain what I mean when I say ‘no matter the form’.  Whenever we are watching any/all forms of abuse played out in media, whether that is in the news, a movie, shows, or social platforms matters not, we are witnessing it, and normalizing it.  It also matters not, if we knowingly, unknowingly, intentionally, unintentionally normalize abuse, abuse is within our life experiences.  Now ask yourself if this is the, so called normal life, that you prefer.

Let us break down the definition of abuse further, so we may become knowledgeable about it, to utilize the well known ‘knowledge is power’ statement for the empowerment of our life.  The (something) in the definition, in my opinion, deserves our attention at this time.  What does (something) mean?

Something: a thing that is unspecified or unknown.

That is a vague definition and if we’re not focused on what we define as something, and how we interact with whatever that something is, we are left to the defining of what  something is to others &/or to our learned programs we have come to normalize and call ‘life’.

Let us get very clear about what the word abuse means and how we have normalized it in ourselves, our families, our communities, our education systems, our health care system, in politics and government, religious settings, and our interactions within the world overall.

Normalize: bring or return to a normal or standard condition or state.

Misuse: use (something) in the wrong way or for the wrong purpose.

Bad: of poor quality or a low standard.

Unspecified: not named or stated explicitly: not specified.

Unknown: not known or familiar.

Effect: a change which is a result or consequence of an action or other cause.

Purpose: the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.

As we become more knowledgeable about the ‘spell’-ing we are continually doing, automatically do, we can see why we are in the life we are currently in.  We have literally, through the word/s, created the life we are experiencing.  I now ask how you want to ‘Spell’ your life into existence?

Until I truly understood how I was NOT in control of my energy and in what way it was being hijacked, manipulated, being used against me in such a way that I took up its cause and abused myself continually.  I was taught how to weaponize the ‘word/s’ against others and myself, which became the so-called normal that we live in at this time.

Until I came to realize this I was always thinking, ‘Life isn’t fair!’, yet I know that life is absolutely fair…100% of the time.  Wait, what the actual fudge?

Hear me out on this one.

To truly understand the Law of Attraction is to understand that we are continually in fair exchange within every moment of our life.  It can be no other way.  Another way to look at the Law of Attraction is to see that it holds within it ‘Intention’ & ‘Attention’.

Whatever/wherever, whether you do this knowingly or unknowingly, matters not, you give your attention to, will grow.

Examples: If you are fighting for change, you will be fought.

Wait, WTF does that mean?

Everything in life is energy/frequency/vibration.  Like attracts like.  Since we are nature and physics (which is nature seen scientifically), whatever energy we operate from will be brought into our experience.

Since everything, people, places, things, animals, beliefs, thoughts, emotions, everything, is energy we have direct informing of how we are using our energy in the world by watching what our lives are.

Example: If we abuse ourselves, whether we are knowingly or unknowingly doing this, we welcome abuse energy into our lives.  Therefore, when we let go of self-abuse, in its subtle various ways, we are no longer vibrating at the frequency of abuse which will, by the laws of the universe, no longer resonate with abuse, which will no longer be our experience.

We hold the keys to the prison, our so-called unfulfilling life, that we find ourselves imprisoned within.  Until you recognize this you will continually ‘Spell’ your imprisonment/enslavement into existence.

Reminder, where your attention goes, your energy flows.  This is a natural law of the universe…we have not fully understood it in the same manner as we do with the law of gravity.

Let us understand and know why we experience what we do in this universe, just as we understand that if we jump off a building gravity will always operate as it always has and we will go splat…we understand and know this, therefore we do not blame gravity for our pain.  Now let us truly invest in understanding and knowing what the other universal laws are and in which way they affect us, and how to best use them in a way that serves us and our experiences.  (articles on the universal laws to come out at a later date)

Ponder on the following:

Law of Attraction

Law of Intention

Law of Attention

Whatever/wherever you give your attention with/to, your energy flows.

If you are giving attention to abuse in any form, you are attracting it into your life experiences.

A deeper dive into the Law of Attraction is forthcoming…stay tuned!