WALK: A Reflection on Movement and Meaning

Movement is an essential part of life. We walk every day—sometimes with intention, sometimes out of habit, sometimes without even realizing where our steps are taking us. But have you ever paused to ask yourself: Where am I walking? The direction of our steps says more about our inner world than we often acknowledge. Let’s explore several essential questions to reflect on the deeper meaning behind our movement.

Are You Walking Towards?

Every journey begins with a destination in mind. Whether it’s a dream, a goal, or a vision of the person you want to become, walking towards something requires clarity and purpose. It’s about intention, direction, and forward movement. But walking towards also requires awareness—are you moving toward something that truly aligns with your values, or are you chasing something out of obligation? Take a moment to reflect: What am I consciously moving toward today?

Are You Walking Away?

Not all movement is about pursuit. Sometimes, the bravest thing we can do is walk away. Whether it’s a toxic relationship, a limiting belief, or a cycle of self-doubt, stepping away from what no longer serves us is an act of self-preservation and growth. Walking away doesn’t mean giving up—it means making space for something better. Ask yourself: What am I ready to release?

Are You Walking With?

Life is not meant to be a solo journey. Who we walk with matters. Are you surrounded by people who inspire, support, and challenge you? Are you walking in connection—with friends, family, or a community that aligns with your values? Walking with others is about relationships, shared purpose, and mutual encouragement. Consider: Who am I walking with, and are they helping me grow?

Are You Walking Your Talking?

Integrity is when our actions match our words. It’s easy to say what we believe, but are we living it? Are we embodying our principles in our daily steps? Walking your talk means showing up authentically, honoring your values in your choices, and being the person you say you are. Reflect on this: Am I living in alignment with my values?

Are You Walking in Circles?

Sometimes, despite our best efforts, we find ourselves repeating the same patterns. Are you truly moving forward, or are you stuck in a loop of old habits and familiar struggles? Recognizing when you’re walking in circles is the first step toward breaking free. Ask yourself: Am I progressing, or just moving without direction?

Are You Walking Against the Wind?

Life often presents resistance. Are you fighting an uphill battle that’s worth the struggle, or are you resisting change that might actually serve you? Walking against the wind can build strength, but it can also drain you if you’re fighting a battle that isn’t yours to win. Reflect: Am I resisting or persisting?

Are You Walking in Someone Else’s Shoes?

Are you living according to your own values, or are you following a path someone else laid out for you? Walking in someone else’s shoes can offer perspective, but if you stay there too long, you might lose your sense of self. Ask yourself: Am I on my path or someone else’s?

Are You Walking Lightly?

Do you walk with kindness, awareness, and gratitude? Walking lightly means moving through life with mindfulness and leaving a positive impact on those around you. Consider: How do my steps affect the world and the people around me?

Final Thoughts

Walking is more than just movement—it’s a metaphor for how we navigate our lives. Whether we are stepping toward, away, with, or in alignment, every step carries meaning. Take time to reflect on your walk. Adjust your direction if needed. And most importantly, walk with purpose, walk with courage, and walk in truth.

Where are you walking today?

Breaking Through the F.O.G.: Reclaiming Clarity and Autonomy

In life, we often find ourselves feeling stuck, uncertain, or weighed down by invisible forces. When clarity is lacking, it’s essential to ask: Am I experiencing F.O.G.?

F.O.G.—an acronym for Fear, Obligation, and Guilt—was coined by Chase Hughes to describe the emotional barriers that cloud our judgment and influence our decisions in ways that may not align with our true selves. Whether we are F.O.G.ing ourselves or being F.O.G.ed by others, recognizing these forces is the first step toward reclaiming clarity, autonomy, and personal power.

The Three Elements of F.O.G.

Fear – The Invisible Cage

Fear is a powerful motivator, but when unchecked, it can keep us trapped in cycles of hesitation, avoidance, and self-doubt. Fear-driven decisions often lead to playing small, settling for less, or staying in unfulfilling situations simply because they feel “safe.”

Signs that fear is controlling your choices:

  • You avoid change, even when you know it’s necessary.
  • You hesitate to express your true thoughts and desires.
  • You stay in situations that feel restrictive or draining rather than taking risks for potential growth.

Breaking Free from Fear:

  • Ask yourself: What’s the worst that could happen if I act despite my fear?
  • Challenge fearful thoughts by replacing them with empowering beliefs.
  • Take small, courageous steps outside your comfort zone.

Obligation – The Heavy Chain

Many of us live under the weight of obligation—doing things because we feel we “should,” rather than because we genuinely want to. Obligation can stem from cultural expectations, family pressures, workplace demands, or societal norms, leading to resentment and exhaustion.

Signs that obligation is ruling your life:

  • You frequently say “yes” when you want to say “no.”
  • You feel pressured to meet the expectations of others at your own expense.
  • Your decisions are influenced more by duty than by personal fulfillment.

Releasing the Burden of Obligation:

  • Ask yourself: Is this something I truly want, or am I doing it out of duty?
  • Practice setting boundaries and honoring your own needs.
  • Recognize that taking care of yourself is not selfish—it’s essential.

Guilt – The Silent Manipulator

Guilt can make us feel responsible for the emotions and well-being of others, even when it’s not our burden to carry. It can lead to self-sacrifice, over-apologizing, and staying in relationships or situations that no longer serve us.

Signs that guilt is driving your actions:

  • You feel responsible for how others feel, even when it’s beyond your control.
  • You over-apologize or take blame unnecessarily.
  • You struggle to prioritize your own needs without feeling selfish.

Letting Go of Guilt:

  • Ask yourself: Am I truly responsible for this, or am I taking on someone else’s burden?
  • Reframe guilt by recognizing that prioritizing your well-being benefits everyone.
  • Give yourself permission to make choices that honor your happiness.

Clearing the F.O.G. and Reclaiming Clarity

Recognizing Fear, Obligation, and Guilt in our lives is a powerful first step toward personal freedom. Once we become aware of these influences, we can challenge them, set boundaries, and make choices that align with our true desires rather than external pressures.

Reflection Questions to Clear the F.O.G.:

  • Fear: What am I afraid of, and is it holding me back from something I truly want?
  • Obligation: Am I doing this because I genuinely want to, or because I feel I have to?
  • Guilt: Am I taking responsibility for something that isn’t mine to carry?

The more we recognize and release F.O.G., the more clarity, peace, and empowerment we gain. By stepping out of the haze of fear, obligation, and guilt, we create a life rooted in authenticity, confidence, and personal sovereignty.

Are you ready to clear the F.O.G. and step into your true power?

H.I.G.H.: A Path to a Meaningful Life

H.I.G.H.: A Path to a Meaningful Life

In a world filled with constant distractions, external expectations, and ever-evolving challenges, it can be easy to lose touch with our core values. H.I.G.H.—an acronym for Honesty, Integrity, Gratitude, and Humility—serves as a guiding philosophy for those seeking a deeper sense of self-awareness, fulfillment, and purpose. These four fundamental principles shape how we navigate relationships, make decisions, and cultivate inner peace.

The Meaning Behind H.I.G.H.

Honesty – Embracing Truth

Honesty is the foundation of self-growth and meaningful connections. When we are truthful with ourselves and others, we free ourselves from illusions and create space for clarity. Honesty allows us to:

  • Recognize our true feelings and intentions
  • Build trust in relationships
  • Release self-deception and embrace authenticity

Integrity – Living in Alignment

Integrity is about aligning our actions with our values. When we live with integrity, we cultivate self-respect and a strong moral compass. Integrity helps us to:

  • Make decisions based on principles rather than external pressures
  • Stand firm in our beliefs while respecting others
  • Build a reputation of reliability and trustworthiness

Gratitude – Cultivating Appreciation

Gratitude shifts our focus from what we lack to the abundance already present in our lives. This mindset of appreciation fosters resilience and joy. Practicing gratitude allows us to:

  • Find beauty in small, everyday moments
  • Strengthen our emotional well-being
  • Enhance our relationships by acknowledging the value of others

Humility – Releasing Ego, Embracing Growth

Humility is not about diminishing oneself, but rather about embracing continuous learning and understanding our place in the larger picture. When we practice humility, we:

  • Open ourselves to new perspectives and personal growth
  • Let go of the need for external validation
  • Recognize that true strength comes from a willingness to learn and evolve

Why H.I.G.H. Matters

Incorporating Honesty, Integrity, Gratitude, and Humility into daily life creates a more balanced, purpose-driven existence. These values serve as tools for emotional resilience, healthier relationships, and a deeper connection to ourselves and the world around us.

By embracing H.I.G.H., we step into a life that is more intentional, meaningful, and aligned with our true essence. How can you bring more of these principles into your life today?

Distractions

Distraction: a thing that prevents someone from giving full attention to something else.

Take a look at this additional definition of distraction.

Distraction: extreme agitation of the mind or emotions.

Hmmm…

Do your beliefs and thoughts cause you to be distracted from your desired life?

Does your inability to understand emotions and how to balance your emotional state keeping you from living a fulfilled life?

When the nervous system is dis-regulated, the distraction of ‘extreme agitation of your mind and emotions’ will most likely ensue.

There is much information available on the nervous system, as to how it operates when dis-regulated verses when it is regulated.  There is great insight into knowing how your physiology operates differently, dependant on the state your nervous system is in.  Your brain is also operating differently when it is dis-regulated verses regulated, affecting how you are able to take in information, process information, and make decisions.

When dis-regulation is occurring, the brain’s ability to take in information is drastically diminished, therefore, awareness of choices available are automatically minimized.  To ‘literally’ have an open mind requires a regulated nervous system.  To be more informed requires a regulated nervous system.  To be aware of more possible available choices, requires a regulated nervous system.  In knowing this, is it not obvious that the first steps to making changes in your life require that you regulate your nervous system?

Is this not good to know, and gives you the awareness that regulating your nervous system is the first step required for the changes you desire in your life?

As is for most everyone, it is a dis-regulated nervous system that limits your ability to live your life as you choose putting and is putting you in a constant state of basic surviving.  When you are surviving, you are not thriving.

Surviving: continuing to exist; remaining intact.

Thriving: prosper; flourish.

These are two very different ways of experiencing life.

Surviving within thriving would be a goal worthy of anyone’s investment.  Take this in.

Once you recognize and acknowledge that you are operating from a dis-regulated nervous system and do the work to regulate your nervous system, can you then choose what you want to experience in your life.  It takes a deep desire for one to want changes to live a life of choice and to be able to move into this step.  Just like leading a horse to water to drink, the horse ultimately has to be the one who decides to drink or not.  Be the one that leads yourself towards the cup of life, as well as the one who drinks from the cup of life.  (The usage of the cup of life will be the topic of another article.). This is empowerment.

It takes great awareness of all that you believe, think, feel and do, to know what is dis-regulating your nervous system in your life.

This is more of an observational task that one undertakes.  In order to regulate your nervous system you must know what is causing dis-regulation.  Another way of putting this is, anything that causes your nervous system to go into a dis-regulated state is, at this point in your life a cause, a distraction.  And it is a double whammy distraction by the very fact that it hits on both meanings of ‘Distraction’.  That is the perfect proverbial, ‘stuck between a rock and a hard place’.  Hmmm…worth understanding.

Whatever, whether it is a person/s, place/s, object/s, habit/s, &/or your belief/s, thought/s, word/s, action/s, and behaviours that ‘distracts’ you from what you truly desire, by letting go of them, allows you to place your attention on the life you desire.

Now is not the time to be ‘distracted’ by the life you desire.  Not just yet.  Here’s why.

Just like building a house upon a stable foundation determines the liveability of that abode, establishing your foundation within, by regulating your nervous system is a critical step for the changes you are looking for in your life.

By investing in the knowledge and understanding of how a healthy nervous system operates is not a waste of time.  Just as the builders of a house have to educate themselves on how to build a strong, stable foundation, you have to educate yourself on how to regulate ‘YOUR’ personal nervous system.

The basics that are required to understand for building of a house will be applicable to all houses.  Yet if someone whats their house to have particular features there is additional knowledge and understanding required.  So it is  the case with each individuals nervous system.

What is common for everyone, you included, and what is specific to you and your needs to live a life in a regulated state?

Those are just a few of the questions to ask yourself as you go on this journey towards a fulfilled life of ‘your choosing’.

Are you ready to lead yourself, by investing in yourself, towards ‘your’ fulfilled life that is held deep within ‘your’ heart & soul?

In answering this question some of the distractions you are currently experiencing will be removed which will allow some forward momentum in the direction of your fulfilled life.

What one small step can you take today that supports your nervous system?

 

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step” is a Chinese proverb that encourages people to start small and keep moving forward. It’s often attributed to the ancient Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu. 

‘A life of fulfillment begins with a single choice’…and another single choice, and another single choice, and….

Fulfillment: the meeting of a requirement or condition.

What are your requirements for a fulfilled life?

Requirements: a thing that is compulsory; a necessary condition.

What conditions do you need to fulfill your requirements?

Conditions: have a significant influence on or determine (the manner or outcome of something).

When and what choice will you make today to put into motion the fulfilled life you want to live?

Choice without ‘distractions’…

The Power of the Word

What is the Power?…

What is the Word?…

What does it mean when they are used together?…

I will start with this simple statement, everything is ‘energy’.  And since everything is energy then words are also energy.

With this awareness now ask yourself, what is the power of each and every word you believe, think and say?

I remember that old saying, ‘Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me’.  I now have a very different understanding of how powerful my words, whether believed, thought or spoken, are.  We are literally spell-ing our lives.

Much of our word power is held in the unconscious mind which creates our beliefs, thoughts and the language we use.  And we wonder why our lives are such a mess.  How could it ‘not’ have turned out as planned?

Why indeed?  I will add, that we now know that anywhere from 70% to 95% of our habits, characteristics and behaviours, our personalities, were establish by the time we reached 7 years of age.  I now ask myself, and you, how much of the first two to three years do you remember?  I say, not much.  We are therefore given clues into why we had the experiences we have in life.  It is through the power of the word.

I was, from birth, raised in religion.  The religion matters not in the context of this article, as everyone will relate specifically from the religion they were raised in.  I only use this as a place of perspective for understanding how our lives are built upon those formative 7 years, because they become the filters we utilize to view, believe, think, act and behave in the world.

Much of what I was taught within this religion I did not, and do not, freely choose for my life.  It has taken thousands upon thousands of hours to identify, become aware of what I had unconsciously been programmed with, then seeking out alternative ways of being.

Once I hit the knowing, within my being, that the majority of my life was built upon, ‘wanting to want what I didn’t want’, could I be free enough to explore and experience life differently.

When I recognized that most of what happened in my life that I didn’t think I was choosing, I was.  I was unknowingly choosing it from my unconscious programmed mind that is mostly based upon my formative first 7 years.  So now what?

When I finally understood this, which has only been in the past couple of years, could I investigate without the judgement that comes with the program I was given at a very young age.

I tried really hard to be a good girl and want to want it…but in focusing my energy on wanting to want what I did’t want I was left with little energy to focus on what I desired the most for myself and my life.  And it wasn’t enough.  I was always left wanting.  And the energy of the word wanting does not allow for having.

We create with our energy by how we focus our energy.  That is the Law of Attraction in action.  And I was doing it all along on wanting to want what I didn’t want therefore my life reflected disappointment after disappointment because I mostly saw all that I didn’t want.  Yup…this is a total mind f*ck.

We are all masters at Law of Attraction!!

Ask yourself if you are authentically living a life designed by you or are you living a life that is based upon programs established in your first 7 years of life?

May the Power of the ‘Force’ created by the Word, ever guide you…

‘Spell’-ing

Spell: what is meant by a word, text, concept, or action.

The use of words, whether it is within our thoughts, spoken out loud, or written down, have power.  It is how we put a spell on ourselves and others.  We are casting spells all the time with our language by way of ‘words’ as well as the intention (energy) you place behind them.

To cast a spell: “Cast a spell on someone” is an idiom that means to use words or actions that are believed to have magical powers to influence someone. It can also be used figuratively to describe when someone is charmed or fascinated by another person or thing. (Source – internet)

Be aware that your self talk has a ‘spell’-ing effect on you and affects your life by its vibrational, intended energy, produced by way of language.  The way you speak to yourself (spell) is creating the vibrational quality that you experience in your life.

Remember the one universal law of ‘Like attracts like’.  To understand it from another perspective…What you give your attention to is where your energy is flowing.

In knowing this, wouldn’t it make more sense to direct your attention, even the attention you give yourself, to positive beliefs, thoughts, words, intentions?

Ask if you want to vibrate at the level you are communicating to yourself from?

If you are thinking negatively about yourself, it is affecting you.  If you are talking to yourself or others about yourself in negative ways, you are affecting yourself.

Negative: a word or statement that expresses denial, disagreement, or refusal.

Ask yourself, if someone you loved was being talked to in the same manner as you talk/think about yourself, would you want that for them?

 

Why do we have a different set of standards for ourselves than for those we love and care for?  Why?

Standard: a level of quality or attainment.

To find balance within ourselves and our lives it is imperative that we are able to reconcile all levels of creation.

Reconcile: cause to coexist in harmony; make or show to be compatible.

Let’s look at a common example of what this means.  A person trying to make sense of what they perceive as senseless, are unable to reconcile within themselves what that event/situation is.  Being aware that these two states are not compatible will then allow one to be responsible (ability to respond) within and in how they choose to interact with others.  That is empowerment.

Having a basic understanding how we are coded and operate as a species empowers you in your decision making to create your fulfilled life experiences.

Levels of Creation: Desire – Intention – Thoughts – Emotions – Actions – Behaviours

Look at ‘Desire’ as your blueprint with the ‘Intention’, which is your destination/experiences you have planned for your life.  A corrupted, altered, unreadable blueprint causes you to lose the clarity about what your purpose in life truly is.

Your ‘Thoughts’ are what comes from ‘Desire/Intention’ energy, corrupted or not, at which time these ‘Thoughts’ produce the corresponding ‘Emotion’ (Energy in motion with information).  Your ‘Emotions’ will then produce the equivalent chemicals into your body influencing your state of health and wellbeing.

Your ‘Actions’ (choices) create your ‘Behaviours’.  If you understand the levels of your life in creation, your state of ‘be’-ing, you are then able to take accountability for your life.  You are able to gain the ability to be responsible…(your ability to respond) in your life choices, therefore creating the life you deeply desire that is reflective of your original blueprint.

Being clear about your blueprint is critical for your ‘spell’s to bring you the fulfilled life of your choosing, along with enough of anything you require to build the ‘Kingdom’ of your choosing.

Be clear about the language, words, and thoughts you are using, as they will guide you to the fulfilling life of your design.

Isn’t that the fairytale ‘spell’ casting that you want?

What story do you want to create, to tell yourself and others?

Levels of Creation: Desire – Intention – Thoughts – Emotions – Actions – Behaviours

Desire – What does your ‘heart’ desire and what does your ‘mind’ desire?  Do they align?

Intention – What is your ‘hearts’ intention and what is your mind’s intention?

 

Intention is what is behind attention and where your attention goes your energy flows…like attracts like.

This is Law of Attraction in action.

Therefore operating from a clear point of intention, giving as much attention to this intention as you can attracts back to you what is in alignment to those frequencies.

Word of caution…when you think of ‘spell’ing bad upon another person, you by default attract it towards yourself because you are aligning to those energies/frequencies.

What do you want to attract into your life?

Write your story with your ‘Spell’ing ability.

Alone or Lonely

There are many who feel the struggle within, whenever they feel lonely, or feel alone in the world.

Let’s understand the differences between these two states of being.

Alone: having no one else present.

Lonely: without companions; solitary.

The human species have deeply encoded within them a need for connection.  Just like we need air, water, sleep, food, appropriate shelter, we ‘need’ connection as well.

We are a social species and to the degree that one is social, varies dependent on many factors. We will focus more on human to human connections at this time.

What does it truly mean to make a connection?

Connection: a relationship in which a person, thing, or idea is linked or associated with something else.

 

Relationship: the way in which two or more people or groups regard and behave toward each other.

 

Ask yourself who you spend time with, that you do not feel alone or lonely when you are around them?

Now take a moment to ask yourself who you are hanging out with that you do feel alone or lonely around?

When we look at the definition of connection those who you feel alone or lonely around you are NOT connecting with, &/or they are not connecting with you.  Therefore you are not getting one of your basic ‘needs’ meet…CONNECTION.

Most of us know what it feels like to be in a room full of other humans, yet you feel absolutely alone and lonely all at the same time.  It feels like shit!

Now think about those moments you are in a space or place with no other human beings around, are you ‘lonely’?

To be alone and not feel lonely in a space or place is a wondrous thing.

How often does this happen to you?

When and where do you feel this way?

Many human beings rarely have/experience a state of fulfillment in their lives, and the question is ‘why?’.

Why indeed?…

Taking the time to investigate what you are experiencing, through the observation of your thoughts, emotions and how you act, when you are either ‘alone’ or ‘lonely’ is insightful.

Understanding the differences between these two states brings clarity to your investigation.

Neither ‘alone’ or ‘lonely’ are negative or positive, they are both capable of being either negative or positive, all dependant on how you are relating to them from your frame of reference, in what you believe them to mean in your life.

Your investigation of how they affect your life can give you a deeper awareness of how you are operating, whether that be desirable or undesirable, in your life, your relationships, and the world you live in.

Here is an example.  When you are ‘alone’, no one else present, you are better able to focus on whatever task you are wanting to accomplish.  Is this not a desirable situation?  In this example ‘alone’ has a positive effect.

An example where you desire, require another perspective of a situation that you find yourself stuck on and you are ‘alone’.  You are unable to think outside of the loop your mind is stuck in and you’re getting more and more frustrated.  You feel like you are trapped in your mind and all ‘alone’.

In this situation, having someone to talk to that gives you a different perspective, helping you get out of the mental loop you found yourself stuck in, creating a negative experience.

Now go back in your life to see when you have experienced ‘alone’ in either a negative or a positive way.  Write it down and contemplate on the fact that ‘alone’ can have either a negative effect or a positive effect which in turn will affect your life.

There are so many scenarios around ‘alone’ that can be framed as either negative or positive.

Now have look at ‘lonely’ in the same investigative way.  ‘Lonely’ can be either negative or positive, depending on your frame of reference.

The example of going to a gathering where you find yourself, without companions; solitary, is it a negative or a positive experience?

You get the point.

Take the time to investigate for yourself how you are experiencing ‘alone’ and ‘lonely’, asking yourself whether you want to change your beliefs and perceptions of ‘alone’ and ‘lonely’ to create a positive affect in your life.

Go be ‘alone’ with your ‘loneliness’ and investigate deeper within yourself all that you ‘alone’ are able to ‘be’.

‘Be’ing YOU…

Being ENOUGH

“Enough is enough”.

Interesting how we use ‘words’ without really understanding the power they hold.

‘Spell’-ing our life experiences…(more on this in another article)  Enough is enough for this article…yes, pun is intended.

(Link to ‘Spell’-ing article here)

Ask yourself in what way you have been taught to use ‘words’ in relationships, especially the relationship you have with yourself.

The power of ‘words’ have been used for millennia.  Poets use words, religions use words, politicians use words, teachers use words, parents use words, and the list goes on.

Let’s dive into the word ‘Enough’.

Enough: as much or as many as required.

 

Let’s breakdown this definition further.

Much: a great amount or quantity of.

Many: a large number of.

Required: officially compulsory, or otherwise considered essential; indispensable.

‘As much or as many as required’… ‘of what exactly’?

When you’ve been at the end of your rope, whatever rope it may be, have you stated ‘enough is enough’ without really understanding what you were saying.

The word enough is pretty vague, holds nothing specific, yet has everything in it at the same time.

A mind-fuck to say the least.

So what is it that you want enough of?

What, exactly, is enough to have enough of?

Let’s look closer at the statement that many individuals use, ‘Enough is enough’.

Just sit with this for a bit.  ‘As much or as many as required’…wait, what?

Because the word enough is not specified, or specific to any thing, person, place, belief, thought, activity, ‘everything’, wouldn’t it be in your best interest if you give it definition within any/every area of your life?

What would be enough?

Who would be enough?

When would be enough?

Where would be enough?

Enough of what?

As long as you are unable, unwilling, or just don’t know how to define what your enough is, to you, for you, from you, the feelings of uncertainty, feeling lost, unsure, or not enough will be the state of ‘be’ing you find yourself in.  Round and round you will go with no defined beliefs, ideas, thoughts, options, opportunities in your life.  Without defining what enough is to you, you live unfulfilled.

What belief is enough for you?

What ideas are enough for you?

What kinds of thoughts are enough for you?

What options, opportunities are enough for you?

What kinds of relationships are enough for you?

Isn’t it time to say ‘Enough of not defining what enough means to me’.

What enough do you want, desire?

To ‘Be’…

…pretty enough.

…smart enough.

…fun enough.

…creative enough.

…relaxed enough.

…loved enough.

…supported enough.

…given enough.

…giving enough.

…compassionate enough.

…respected enough.

…trusted enough.

…honest enough.

…important enough.

…valuable enough.

…wanted enough.

…(fill in the blank) enough.

Until you decide what is enough for YOU.  Nothing, no-one, no place, NOT anything will be enough for you.

Now ask yourself: ‘Is this how I want to live my life?

‘Be’ the change you want to see in the world!

Wait,…WTF?

You may ask, How do I do that?

Glad you asked.

‘Be’ ENOUGH in each and every moment of your life.  The Universe will bring to you enough to live a fulfilled life full of YOUR ENOUGH.

Enough on enough for now.

Boundaries

Boundary: a line that marks the limits of an area; a dividing line.

I have, as many people do, struggled with what it means to have boundaries.  What is a boundary?  How do I create, establish, enforce boundaries?

What have I learned over the years about boundaries?

I was listening to a podcast about boundaries, because I so desperately wanted to know how to build healthy boundaries in my life, seeking solutions to why others were not respecting my boundaries.  Boundaries is just one of the several themes I have been confused about in my life, and I was going to find the answers I needed.  Move forward several years, I now find the answer I was seeking was always there.

What is this answer that I received, you might ask?

I now laugh at how truly simple the answer is…it was me all along.

Wait, what?…

The one thing this boundary expert stated was very simple, confusing at the time, yet just what I needed to hear.  And I let it percolate within my being until it came forward with the clarity I required, felt was what I truly needed to feel safe with and within myself.

‘Your boundaries start and stop with you’.

Now, at first, I was frustrated by this simple statement, yet I allowed it to percolate until I was ready to truly understand what that meant, not by someone else’s definition, opinion, but what it meant to me, for me.

Since we are energy beings, and since everyone and everything is in a relationship, energy relating to other energies, and now that we know that whatever your energy state of being is, at any given moment, will be attracting into or repelling away, any/all experiences in your life we have more insight into what boundaries really are.

Example: If you are confused about what is acceptable or not to you, you will experience confusing relationships…which will show up as confusing boundaries.  Therefore you are unable to communicate and act from a position of clarity.

When we become clear about how we will show up energetically in any/all relationships  that is what our boundaries will be.

Simple.  ‘Be’ in and of the energies that you desire for yourself and your life, and it will be that.

Complex, because there are so many layers within ourselves that we do not know about therefore we are operating in unintentional and unknowing ways energetically.

Know Thy’Self’…know all aspects of your being-ness, the energy state that you are in, emitting, and see how effortlessly your boundaries are automatically built.

‘Be the change you want to see in the world’

Be in the energetic state you want to experience within yourself and in your world.

Just ‘Be’…

The End (link to ‘Be’-ing article)