Boundaries

Boundary: a line that marks the limits of an area; a dividing line.

I have, as many people do, struggled with what it means to have boundaries.  What is a boundary?  How do I create, establish, enforce boundaries?

What have I learned over the years about boundaries?

I was listening to a podcast about boundaries, because I so desperately wanted to know how to build healthy boundaries in my life, seeking solutions to why others were not respecting my boundaries.  Boundaries is just one of the several themes I have been confused about in my life, and I was going to find the answers I needed.  Move forward several years, I now find the answer I was seeking was always there.

What is this answer that I received, you might ask?

I now laugh at how truly simple the answer is…it was me all along.

Wait, what?…

The one thing this boundary expert stated was very simple, confusing at the time, yet just what I needed to hear.  And I let it percolate within my being until it came forward with the clarity I required, felt was what I truly needed to feel safe with and within myself.

‘Your boundaries start and stop with you’.

Now, at first, I was frustrated by this simple statement, yet I allowed it to percolate until I was ready to truly understand what that meant, not by someone else’s definition, opinion, but what it meant to me, for me.

Since we are energy beings, and since everyone and everything is in a relationship, energy relating to other energies, and now that we know that whatever your energy state of being is, at any given moment, will be attracting into or repelling away, any/all experiences in your life we have more insight into what boundaries really are.

Example: If you are confused about what is acceptable or not to you, you will experience confusing relationships…which will show up as confusing boundaries.  Therefore you are unable to communicate and act from a position of clarity.

When we become clear about how we will show up energetically in any/all relationships  that is what our boundaries will be.

Simple.  ‘Be’ in and of the energies that you desire for yourself and your life, and it will be that.

Complex, because there are so many layers within ourselves that we do not know about therefore we are operating in unintentional and unknowing ways energetically.

Know Thy’Self’…know all aspects of your being-ness, the energy state that you are in, emitting, and see how effortlessly your boundaries are automatically built.

‘Be the change you want to see in the world’

Be in the energetic state you want to experience within yourself and in your world.

Just ‘Be’…

The End (link to ‘Be’-ing article)